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Being The Mother Of A Son

Lexi from pottmouthmama kindly invited me to join her and many talented bloggers to be part of project to write about being the mother of a son today.  So here it is...






Summer 2002, heavily pregnant with my first child I had a vivid dream...an Indian Chief spoke to me and told me my son would be born soon.  Was this my Spirit Guide speaking to me, or just the result of watching a Village People movie? I don't know. But not too long after I gave birth to a beautiful bouncing baby girl.  My son didn't arrive until the autumn of 2006.  My Indian Spirit Guide has a different  concept of "soon" than me.

But as I sit here trying to write about being the mother of a son, I'm finding it difficult.

You see I don't think I've ever really looked at my children by their gender, but as little beings. I don't parent them differently because of their gender.   I see them as who they are.   And I want them to grow up to be people who are kind, intelligent, dynamic and happy.  People who follows their dreams and live a good and meaningful life.    I have the same dream for both of them.

But as the focus of today is about boys, I will tell you my hopes for what type of man this young boy will become as he grows older.  I'm trying to raise my son to be a man who :: 

Treats all people as equals, regardless of their gender, their religion, or where they came from.
Helps the underdog, a stranger or someone in need. (doesn't just take their photo)
Is an excellent dishwasher and cook, can keep house and knows how to look after himself.
Is not afraid to cry, is sensitive yet strong.
Knows that knitting and sewing, lego and woodwork and other similar pursuits a worthwhile activities for anybody.
Is a wonderful friend, husband and father.
Has a love of outdoors, a sense of self sufficiency, is capable, and accomplished.
Is kind and loving, empathetic, trustworthy, responsible and considerate.

Ambitious?   Perhaps.   But luckily I took the precaution of marrying a man who is exactly like that. So I have his mother as a wonderful role model to follow.

And I don't need an Indian Spirit Guide to tell me that.




Here's a list of all the other wonderful bloggers writing about Being the Mother of a Son today.  Thank you Lexi for getting a good old fashioned Blog Up happening today!

Meet Me At Mikes *
Kootoyoo *
Sadie and Lance *
One Flew Over  *
Pigeon Pair *
Mogantosh *
Gourmet Girlfriend *
Checks and Spots *
PottyMouthMama *
Mrs Smith *
* Mamabake *


29 comments:

  1. this made me cry.
    it made me cry because I am lucky enough to know you and your family and your beautiful beautiful young man in real life and I know that he already IS on his way to all of those things.
    he is guided by two of the loveliest people anyone could be lucky enough to have as parents.
    xxx

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    1. Thank you Ruth, I didn't mean to make you cry!
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  2. Wonderful reading, Michelle - thanks so much for sharing this! xx

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  3. This made me cry too....I pray daily that my two boys are and will be all of those things. I love that you used the word dynamic....what a wonderful hope for your son.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words Sarah. x

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  4. So well put! Hooray for awesome men and their wonderful mothers!

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  5. Beautiful! Reminds me how very grateful I am to also be the mother of a son. They are such special little men. A very special place in their mother's heart.

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    1. Indeed Kate!! I feel very blessed. x

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  6. Love it to bits Michelle! Makes me want to join the party and write about my 4 boys, I very much want the same as what you have written here. Mel xxx

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    1. You totally should join the party Mel! xx

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  7. ' People who follows their dreams and live a good and meaningful life' - that is exactly it.

    Beautiful piece!

    G

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  8. Wise words Michelle and something all mothers and sons should aspire to!

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    1. Thanks so much Jane, I don't think of myself of wise, but it's lovely of you to say so!

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  9. oh! did you just speak highly of your mother in law??
    that is almost UNHEARD of isn't it? but, doesn't having a son (or 4, in my case!) make you very very aware of how you treat your mother in law? yes, indeedy...
    Beautifully written - in my top 3 of this 'Mother of Boys' series xx

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    1. Thanks so much Dee! High praise indeed! My MIL is a really incredible role model for me - she has six children!

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  10. Ok that last photo is stunning! Tassie looks like paradise!

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    1. It is paradise! If a rather cold one...

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  11. what a beautiful blog you have here, visiting from pomegranate and seed.
    xo

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    1. Thanks for visiting Lady Cordelia!

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  12. So very true Michelle. If I am fortunate enough to be the mother of a son one day, I shall try my best to instil these values and strengths.
    x

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  13. Michelle - gosh, such beautiful words and such truth in your comment about 'helping the underdog'...
    I loved taking part in this series, not only because it made me stop and think about having a son (and yes, just like you I don't often think about the gender of our kids) but because I have been introduced to blogs like yours.
    Will def be dropping by again!
    x

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    1. Thank you so much Clare. I really appreciate you reading and your comment. I agree it's been wonderful to discover new blogs while taking part in this series! x

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  14. Oh... (deep breath and a teary lump in throat) ... I have a Young Prince. My only child. My "one and only" - the best of me and the VERY best of Hubby. Once upon a time there were small foot prints, lego and lots of questions. Now there are very (VERY ... size 14!) large footprints, lego in the shed and lots MORE questions (mine - not his) ..... Sigh. ♥♥♥

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